There is one proven method for happier kids more involved dads and less stressedout moms after divorce5050 custodyIts hard for everyone when parents split upbut the end of living together doesnt need to mean the end of a functional family. Part of the reason divorces are so traumatic for the kids involved is because of our child custody system which truly sets everyone up for failure. Throughout the country the default arrangement is for Mom to get majority time with the kids and most of the responsibility of caring for them for Dad to become an occasional visitor and perhaps saddled with massive child support payments and for the kids to lose the stability structure and confidence of knowing they have two equally committed loving parents.